Wikipedia describes a Dutch Uncle as follows:
Dutch uncle is an informal term for a person
who issues frank, harsh or severe comments and criticism to educate, encourage
or admonish someone. Thus, a "Dutch uncle" is the reverse of what is
normally thought of as avuncular or uncle-like.
In this essay I will give some Dutch
Uncle advice to those who fancy themselves as fighting the good fight in the
war over racism. I assume that your intentions are honorable, because if they
are not, then my advice will be dismissed out of hand because it is irrelevant
to your true intentions of eternal conflict.
Your premise is that you or your
ancestors were the victims of past discrimination based on race; therefore, you
are justified in admonishing your fellow citizens who are not minorities,
perhaps even demanding reparations. Furthermore you are entitled to practice
discrimination against them as compensation and force them to repent publicly for
their own actions and for the actions of their ancestors. You demand these
humbling admissions even if there is no evidence of individual discrimination.
As a recipe for never-ending racial conflict, you could hardly have adopted
better tactics.
First of all, there is no objective or
valid method for determining the extent of past, nationwide discrimination
other than a close examination of discriminatory laws. The so-called Jim Crow
laws of the post Reconstruction era South certainly qualify, but it is safe to
say that these were removed long ago. Today the only discriminatory laws punish
those who are not considered to be minorities. I leave it to you to decide who
these victims of "affirmative action" might be. Race warriors are
left with nothing more than seeking insult and injury in the completely legal
actions of your fellow citizens as they go about their daily lives. This is
especially divisive when inculcated into the minds of children; i.e., telling
them at an impressionable age that they cannot achieve their full potential in
life because others hate them for the color of their skin.
Now here's my first Dutch Uncle advice:
Forget about it. Yes, forget about it. Ignore it. Put it out of your mind.
There is nothing--I repeat, nothing-- that you can do to change people's
minds....OTHER THAN PRACTICING EXEMPLORY BEHAVIOR YOURSELF. Do not become
bitter. Do not ask government to intervene in some way to placate your real or perceived
insults. All that will happen is the opposite of what you truly desire. Telling
someone that he is a racist, whether he knows it or not, will get you nowhere.
In fact it will get you LESS than nowhere. It will harm your cause.
Here are some more Dutch Uncle rules for
would-be race warriors:
1. Perfect yourself through continuous
self-improvement and self-reflection. Every man contains the seeds of good and
evil within himself, but he must fight his own devils alone. No one can make
you a better person and no one can prevent you from becoming one.
2. Forget about "fighting for social
justice, etc." as an occupation. Your occupation should be finding a way
to integrate yourself into the market economy. You do this by building your
personal capital base. Become someone others can rely upon, who has skills and
knowledge that others admire. Yes, you get it now. Stay in school. Pay
attention in school and do your best. Become self reliant and self dependant. Do
not rely upon government handouts. These are traps to a lifetime of dependency
and bitterness. This should be a strong principle. Work hard. Work smart. Live
within your means and do not begrudge others who are more successful. This is
the true path to good self-esteem. The most important component of your
personal capital base is good character, honesty, reliability, integrity. These
are the traits that are most desired in life and also the traits that are most
lacking. One can acquire many skills and honors, but nothing is so valuable as
one's own good name.
3. Turn the other cheek. Do not respond
negatively to perceived slights. Be magnanimous; i.e., assume that others did
not intend to slight you. Remember the adage--Those who seek trouble usually
find it. Do not be that person. Hall of Fame baseball star Ernie Banks once was
asked if he had ever suffered insults and discrimination due to his race. He
said of course he had. When asked how he responded to these insults and how he
remained so cheerful, Banks said, "I killed them with kindness." This
is the path to true self-worth. Do not let others make you bitter. Pity them
instead.
4. Build a strong, loving relationship
with your family. Cultivate lasting friendships. Make friends by being a
friend. No one can have too many
friends. Be helpful. But most of all, remember that charity begins at home. In
other words, your family is your foundation to happiness. Cultivate a strong
family network. Do not keep a mental scorecard of whether you have helped your
friends or family members more than they have helped you. Just be the person
upon whom others can rely, whom others consult in times of trouble, whom others
look upon as a rock of kindness and wisdom.
None of this is headline grabbing. None
of this will get your name and picture in the paper. Forget about seeking
accolades from becoming a race warrior. The real, lasting accolades, and the
only ones that are important, will come to you anyway.